Your an adult and chose to have sex and pressed charges against your ex for non-disclosure. You should be serving 5 years for being an idiot and not having safe sex. I am sorry, two consenting adults should be able to make choices regarding sex and no one should be penalized. How in hell will we ever get the younger generation to test if they feel they can be prosecuted if the test results aren’t what they hope they will be and they want to someday have sexual enounters again. You made the decision to have sex…………shame on you for not taking better precautions while you were doing whatever you were doing. Hope you live a long, healthy, productive life but don’t like the way you went about your business concerning your ex. Good luck to you. ~D.

It’s a crime to not disclose a positive hiv status to any partner you have sex with. It’s also a crime to not tell your dentist, medical health provider, etc. It’s also not a gay thing. If you have ANY STD it’s a crime to spread it if you knowingly have it and don’t inform your partner. There are lots of people with the disease who act like “vampires” when it comes to sex. They want to make people sick and they want to spread the disease so they aren’t the only ones who have it. Are you saying you want these types of reckless people roaming free on the streets instead of being in jail ?

I don’t know if you know the difference between “persecute” and “prosecute.” But, yes, you and Lee have both persecuted the ex.

The reaction to this man’s situation on this feed is surprising. I know I am going to get bashed for this, but I am not a fan of false securities. I don’t think its fair that monogamous couples should continue “pre-cautions” as though they were single. If you are in exclusive monogamous relationship, its time that you start acting like it.
Condoms protect against transmission of many diseases, not against infidelity and responsibility. Condom advocates forget that condoms do not slow down sexual proclivities nor improves the sense of trust and compassion you have for your partner, gay or straight. Many sexually active condom users tend to walk around with a sense of superiority, arrogance, and a false sense of security. Condoms tend to give a green light to cheaters and a cheap way out of getting tested and staying clean by saying “I used a condom, so no worries”
Condoms, in an exclusive monogamous relationship, should be reserved as choice for the couple involved. One should not need a condom if they have gotten checked-up, status updated, tested, and not f***ing anyone else. Show your papers if necessary. Uncle Poodle chose to trust someone, and THAT someone broke his trust- not Uncle Poodle.
He would have (or maybe still does) love his partner if he was honest. What happen to that being the most important thing in a relationship? Honesty, trust, and respect seem to me to be more important than any disease.
HIV+ or HIV-, condoms or not, there is no such thing as a healthy relationship without respect, honesty, and trust. Uncle Poodle is a nice mofo in my opinion because I would have gone to prison for first degree murder. Get me sick, you die. No excuse.

Please get your facts straight. It’s not a crime to “spread any STD”, it’s only a crime to fail to announce you have HIV before sex. HIV is actually unique in this regard. Otherwise, the 95% of heterosexuals who are infected with HPV would find themselves disclosing constantly, and cervical cancer would result in millions of prosecutions. The only time it becomes acceptable to compare carriers of any disease to “vampires” is when they’re far enough removed from your own life to see them as aliens, instead of human beings deserving the same rights and dignities as everyone else. Instead of saying that people who oppose these laws are “reckless”,why don’t you admit that a gay man who tests every two months but evidently goes off condoms in a shorter period of time might not be sincere about his desire to remain negative? Is it because that’s not as much fun as casting people as monsters like some unwashed medieval villager?

Yes this is a tough call but not all couples are monagomous no matter how much they say they are, sorry been in too many relationships with men who are bi-sexual or “players. My motto is “no glove no love” plain and simple. While a condom is not a cure all for this, honesty is.

I didn’t realize that you lived with Lee and his ex, and also listened in to their personal conversations. I mean, it sounds like you know the whole story, when in fact, you know nothing. Now there is one thing that Lee is guilty of, and that’s having trust and faith in a person, a person HE LOVED. Wow, what a concept to trust someone that you love. What a horrible person Lee is for thinking he could trust the man he loved and who told him he loved him. The State of Georgia agreed with Lee, again, there must have been a lot to the story. But of course you can’t see the complexity of the issue and are just looking at the black and white of it…..there is a lot of grey area here. Ever heard the saying, walk a mile in ones shoes? Yeah, until then keep your assumptions to yourself. And shame on you for being a judgmental person.

I agree 100%, having unprotected sex in a monogamous relationship is extremely different from having unprotected sex in a hookup.

And in my opinion, anybody that can’t see the difference between that, and can’t realize how wrong it is to harm and lie to people you are suppose to care about, have something seriously off about their sense of right and wrong.

Uncle Poodle Deserves All the Dog Poop Laid at His Feet

Maybe it doesn’t. But anyone who knowingly has sex with another and does
not tell them about their status BEFOREHAND is a murderer/attempted
murderer. Gay or straight, male or female.

I don’t want to hear the BS
about “well if they didn’t ask then it’s their fault” crap.

If someone ( again gay or straight), has a deadly, communicable, & incurable
disease, they MUST tell those that may be exposed. If they don’t, they
would, (or eventually will be), guilty of murder if the person they
expose without full disclosure gets whatever disease that is.

Two people telling each other they are exclusive with one another is not “safe sex”.

If barebacking is murder then its also suicide.

true that

All I can say is, should Uncle Poodle ever find himself in his ex-boyfriend’s shoes, I hope he is treated with the same regard he treated his ex.

That is BS if you are exclusive it SHOULD mean safe sex because it involves trust and love .

Well, seeing as how Uncle Poodle PUBLICLY disclosed his HIV+ status I don’t think he’ll have a problem telling any potential sexual partner(s) about it.

Yes it is a crime. There was a case I worked on in NY several years ago involving a 19 year old straight man, that knowingly and willfully infected 16 young girls because he was pissed he got it. Guess where his residence is for the rest of his life; prison, where he belongs. 16 counts of attempted agravated murder. 3 of the girls got pregnant with his children and were born after his trial was over and all 3 babies were born with HIV. Did any of you think about that possibility? Is it the babie’s fault? Now go back and read the stupid comments about consenting adults…the ex is where he belongs.

As someone who grew up with him and very close to him, we dated when he was 17 and have remained close ever since. He revealed to me he was HIV positive back in 2008 but then made jokes that he was kidding. Not something to joke about.

I am glad that he is coming out about his HIV POSITIVE STATUS… especially since I am HIV POZ and Undetectable. YET to take your ex to court I GIVE HIM 100% NON-ACKNOWLEDGEMENT and disrespect because he is only ADDING to the HIV STIGMA AND DISCRIMINALIZATION stats.. ugh!

Being in a relationship with someone and trusting them with your body in my opinion is humanly acceptable, but if the person you’re with has HIV and didn’t disclose then they are playing with your life and theirs. Its all about respecting the person you’re with. When my ex gave it to me I was devastated. At first we used condoms back in 05 and then two years later we decided that we should move forward in our relationship. I wanted children as so did he. I asked him did he get tested before and before we started trying to have a child and he said YES. Come to find out with my annual checkup that I was indeed positive a couple months after we had unsafe sex for the first time. And I wasn’t pregnant. To this day he can not tell me how he got it, and come to find out he didn’t get tested at all. The last time he was tested before I told him that I was positive was in ’97. I blame myself for trusting him with my body knowing all that is out there in the world I still put myself at risk. We stayed together for the next three years, but I started to fall out of love with him every day. The relationship that was always happy and blossoming became dull and full of dislike. We broke up in 2010. Although I could have pressed charges I didn’t, because I made that choice to have sex with him unprotected and in a way it was my fault as well. I am just glad that he got the help he needed and we have both moved on from this terrible situation. We continue to keep in touch. Checking up on each other but nothing else. Meeting someone with the same situation has opened my eyes to the many possibilities of finding love, being healthy, and being able to trust once again.

I do understand that if he did know he had it then it may have been different, but not the less I have forgiven him and moved on with my life. There’s not much you can do afterwards. I will have this for the rest of my life, but it will not take me down.

You need serious mental therapy. Re read the comments and stick to the subject matter contained in them.

Thank you. We all need to take responsibility for ourselves. I’m delighted to see this issue come to light.

I’ve gone back and forth on this one but for the longest time now I’ve been able to hold one opinion. It must be the one I’m most comfortable with and would work for me. I believe in monogamy not necessarily for moral or religions reason, but for me it’s the most exciting, fulfilling and rewarding relationship I can have with a man.
I’ve been in a long-term relationship with a man who was HIV+ and a man who was HIV-. The HIV+ recently died. The HIV+ man and I did not have anal sex. We got on just fine without it. We loved each other and if we couldn’t share the time we had together forfeiting anal sex then we shouldn’t have been together at all. Too, I hate condoms and there are many, many fulfilling things for two men to do together that do not require condoms.
The HIV- man and I were together many years. Like most couples, straight and gay, we ended up fighting for the last few years about different monetary goals and that sadly become the end of us. We, however, did not use condoms. Again, as with the man I previously described, we both felt we did not like them and it would be fine to wait for anal sex (I’m not so great on it anyway) until we had a serious committed relationship. Now, with same-sex marriage legal in my state (Washington State), I’d go so far as to say anal sex only after the rings are on, and without condoms. If I cannot trust a man I’ve been with for some time with my well-being, I shouldn’t trust him with my finances, investments, years of my life, sharing my family and deepest emotions, dreams and fears.
What it really comes down to is complete honesty. Without it there is no trust and without trust the relationship is missing a major, all important component with creates fear, doubt, and jealousy. Those aren’t things I want to have to deal with–as much as possible–in my life. If you do sleep with someone else, it’s not that I’m saying, “no problem,” but it’s only fair to the both of us to be open and honest. Plus, what would he have been doing in a slippery place where he’d meet another man to have sex with? Those places should be avoided by both of us, except occasionally when we’re together. I definitely should not do anything in my life I couldn’t feel comfortable telling my husband or doing when he’s standing right beside me.–Jay in Seattle