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June Is Officially LGBT Pride Month

June Is Officially LGBT Pride Month

By Mikkel Hyldebrandt

Just as pride season commences all over the world, President Barack Obama gave LGBT rights another push in the right direction during a Presidential Proclamation on May 31, where he declared June the official LGBT Pride month of 2014.

In the declaration he urges Americans to eliminate prejudice “everywhere it exists”, but also asserts that even though we have moved forward there is still work to do.

“As progress spreads from State to State, as justice is delivered in the courtroom, and as more of our fellow Americans are treated with dignity and respect – our Nation becomes not only more accepting, but more equal as well. During Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) Pride Month, we celebrate victories that have affirmed freedom and fairness, and we recommit ourselves to completing the work that remains,” President Obama states in his declaration.

The President also writes that last year saw substantial victories with the Defense of Marriage Act being repealed paving the way for marriage equality in many states, but “… despite this progress, LGBT workers in too many States can be fired just because of their sexual orientation or gender identity; I continue to call on the Congress to correct this injustice by passing the Employment Non-Discrimination Act. And in the years ahead, we will remain dedicated to addressing health disparities within the LGBT community by implementing the Affordable Care Act and the National HIV/AIDS Strategy.”

The President also mentioned the 45 anniversary of the Stonewall riots and acknowledges the nascent movement it spawned saying: “following their example, let each of us speak for tolerance, justice, and dignity — because if hearts and minds continue to change over time, laws will too.”

So, with those words, we urge you to get out there and celebrate LGBT Pride Month! You could do that by visiting one of the many pride festivals here in the U.S. or abroad – so make sure to pick up the new issue of FENUXE this coming Thursday which includes a guide to pride festivals all over the world.



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Solo Sex While In A Relationship: Is It Cheating?

Solo Sex While In A Relationship: Is It Cheating?

Every relationship has different parameters that make it work. Usually a couple has certain agreed-upon standards that each partner is comfortable with, both in and out of the bedroom. Some are obvious, such as sleeping with someone else while in a monogamous relationship, while others remain in a bit of a grey area, such as masturbation.

The Huffington Post suggests that people in relationships are more likely to feel guilty engaging in solo sex. Some so much in fact, that they might even feel as though they are cheating on their partner if they masturbate.

In some cases, worrying about their partner’s perception of their masturbatory habits is slightly warranted. As Psychology Today points out, there is still a significant portion of people that feel unhappy, hurt, or even betrayed when they find out about their partner’s solo sex habits.

It’s a hang up that can be difficult to overcome in a relationship. Most every professional or medical outlet you reach out to will tell you that masturbating while in a relationship is perfectly normal. Regular masturbation can even benefit your health.

Adam and Eve states that, “regular orgasms reduce the chances of developing prostate cancer, and they also improve cardiovascular health and reduce pain. Of course orgasms reduce stress and fosters a sense of intimacy, but they also boost the body’s immune system.”

In addition, those who engage in masturbation can also see a healthier, more enjoyable sex life with their partner. The more frequently they engage in masturbating, the higher their sex drive.

Given all of the benefits of regular masturbation, it’s surprising to hear that some may still have issues with their partner’s self-sex habits. However, that isn’t to say that it’s not something worth discussing with your partner. Even if you don’t agree with them on the matter, being in a relationship means that you respect their feelings and try and work towards a solution together.

Even with the medical benefits, or regularity that partners masturbate during sex, that doesn’t exactly change the fact that the rules of a relationship are personal to each set of partners. There is no “normal” relationship, it’s simply defined by those a part of it. Therefore, the issue of whether masturbating in a relationship is right or wrong is still nothing short of an opinion by each individual.

No matter what side of the issue you’re on, if you feel that it is creating a rift in your relationship, it’s something that needs to be worked out. If all else fails, a neutral party, such as a counselor, can provide a healthy environment for you both to express your feelings without judgement, and help you work past it.

Adam and Eve


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Do Americans Think Gays Were Born That Way?

Do Americans Think Gays Were Born That Way?

By Mikkel Hyldebrandt

America has made quantum leaps in terms of gay rights just within the past year. So surely our fellow Americans must be learning that being gay is not something you learn as you go along.That we were indeed born that way, right?

Well, newly released data from Gallup’s annual Values and Beliefs poll tells a different story. In fact, 37 percent of Americans are still convinced that people become gay as a result of factors like environment and upbringing. Comparatively 42 percent of American are convinced that people are born gay, so the split between believers of innate as opposed to environmental homosexuality remains sharply divided.

The same poll also revealed that the people who are most likely to believe that being gay is genetic are those with college educations, whites, females, liberals, Democrats, high-income earners and rarely or never attend church services. The poll reveals a staggering (but not surprising) religious, demographic and political split.

A previous Gallup poll also revealed that support for same-sex marriage and marriage equality is at an all-time high in America.  55 percent of people polled said they were in favor of gay marriage.

The results of the Values and Beliefs poll were based on a sample of 1,028 randomly selected adults, age 18 and over, living in all 50 U.S. states and the District of Columbia.

Source:, Gallup

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Flöt Spa – Salaciously Splendid

Flöt Spa – Salaciously Splendid

By Dino Thompson-Sarmiento and Dean Boswell,

Come with me, and let’s seal ourselves in futuristic zero gravity pods.  As the hull doors are lowered upon us, we will lie suspended and silent, as though free of both time and space.  We will allow warm salt water baths to melt away our earthly concerns and leave us in a state of absolute euphoria.  

What may sound like a dream sequence or a Sci-Fi film backdrop is now a delightful reality in Midtown Atlanta.  Flöt Spa on Piedmont Avenue offers patrons the opportunity to spend 50 glorious minutes in one of the most tranquil environments imaginable – all at the price of a regular massage.  

Last week, I ventured into Flöt Spa to try firsthand what so many have been talking about.  Not entirely sure what to expect, I was quick to let the staff at Flöt know I was a newbie.  I have to admit that I was a bit skeptical at first, but the professional team at Flöt put me at ease right away.  I was shown to my private room where my own Flöt capsule was ready and waiting.  As soon as I entered the warm water filled with Epsom salt and closed the pod door, I realized why everyone has been raving about Flöt.  The hour that followed was one of the most serene of my life; I found myself in the realm of complete relaxation.  Better still, after just the one session at Flöt, I noticed that muscle aches I’d had for months had completely disappeared.    

As I found myself descending back to reality, I imagined that there must be some health benefits associated with floating.  I decided to call a good friend of mine, Atlanta physician, Dr. John Ouderkirk of Piedmont Health & Wellness, to ask him if he would be willing to try Flöt and offer a professional opinion.   After very little persuasion, I must say, he agreed to try a session of floating.   Just like me, Dr. Ouderkirk found himself feeling completely rested after only one session.  He called me the same day and said, “That was an amazing experience.  I highly recommend Flöt sessions to reduce stress.”

If you have not yet had the chance to Flöt, I suggest you book your appointment before the waitlist becomes impossibly deep.  If you prefer to work your way up to a full Flöt session, you may also enjoy a massage or Reiki session at Flöt.  Whatever your preference, Flöt Spa offers affordable stress relief in a relaxed setting.  Be sure to check their website often for specials. 

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Today Is Official Harvey Milk Day

Today Is Official Harvey Milk Day

By Mikkel Hyldebrandt

Today officially marks Harvey Milk Day in honor of the gay rights activist who was the first openly gay person to be elected to public office on the San Francisco Board of Supervisors in California in 1977. He only held this position for 11 months when he was shot and killed by his political opponent Dan White who had lost to Milk the year before. Dan White also assassinated mayor George Moscone during the same incident. 

Harvey Milk Day was inaugurated in 2009 after governor Arnold Schwarzenegger in 2008 had denied the request to honor the gay rights activist on this day, which also happens to be Milk’s birthday. Schwarzenegger felt that a celebration shouldn’t be of national proportions, but ought to be confined within local communities, which of course was protested widely.

Milk was posthumously inducted into the California Hall of Fame after being portrayed by Sean Penn in the film Milk, and awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom by Barack Obama this year. Sean Penn also received an Oscar for portraying Milk, who by many has been described as a martyr and visionary for gay rights.

If you are not familiar with Harvey Milk’s story we at FENUXE highly recommend you watch the movie Milk starring Sean Penn and James Franco, which by sources close to Milk has been described as an accurate depiction of the gay rights activist.

No doubt Harvey Milk has been a major force in how far gay rights have come today and for that he should be duly honored.

Source:, NYinExile


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Opposite-Sex Couples Flaunt Lifestyle Choice

Opposite-Sex Couples Flaunt Lifestyle Choice

By D. David Kinney

Micheal Sam is a football player. He achieved a major life goal and he kissed his boyfriend in celebration. Forgive me… but I don’t see what all of the hoopla is about. Athletes have been kissing their girlfriends (and nearby cheerleaders) on national TV for years. Yet, that didn’t stop a chorus of horrified homophobes from flocking to social media sites to express their outrage.

The comments ranged from silly and juvenile to down right hateful and demeaning. However, there was a particular complaint that seemed to come up more than anything else. It was about children. Scores of bigots took to social media to complain about seeing a gay kiss on TV because there were children watching.

I bet Derrick Ward freaked out when he watched the Super Bowl last year and saw this commercial:

Man… there were little kids watching that game! How could CBS have even allowed that to happen! CBS must have thought it wasn’t a big deal because… heck… look what they’re teaching athletes to do in high school:

Hold up. Wait a minute. That happened in a high school? I feel like there are some conflicting messages going on here.

If male athletes are locking lips all over the place why is Micheal Sam any different? Oh… he’s gay. I forgot that the standards for acceptable public displays of affection are incredibly different for opposite-sex couples and same-sex couples. That must explain why this athlete is dry humping a reporter…

I really wish straight people would stop shoving their lifestyle in my face. Go to Trader Joe’s and the straight people are holding hands. Go to Piedmont Park and they’re flagrantly and unabashedly smooching by the ball fields. Don’t even think about going to the movie theatre or you’ll get sick to your stomach from the sheer number of lip-locking amorous young couples. I have nothing against straight people… but I wish they wouldn’t parade their perversions about in front of children.


C’mon y’all. There are kids watching in the bleachers!


OMG. Horrible.


This is completely unnatural and sick. God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and trophy.


Even the Duck Dynasty loons can’t help but thrust their tonsil hockey in our face. Disgusting.

Now… isn’t that just plain silly? Yeah, I agree. So stop mistreating gay people who are in love.

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Beach. Spa. Rave. Repeat.

Beach. Spa. Rave. Repeat.

 By D. David Kinney

With a bottle of bubbly on ice beside my lounge chair and the calming sound of water falling from a fountain behind me, I closed my eyes and basked in Ft. Lauderdale’s glorious sunshine. It feels like I’m a million miles away from Atlanta, but just four short hours ago I was wrestling with my suitcase at the Midtown MARTA Station.

It was an odd scene. I was riding the escalator down toward the MARTA train when a strap on my bag got caught in the mechanics. Admittedly, I was still half asleep so the ordeal took me by surprise at the bottom. Sure it was incredibly early in the morning, but I got a fantastic deal on the first flight out on Spirit Airlines. For less than $200 I flew round trip to Ft. Lauderdale on a comfy Airbus A321. You can’t argue with that.

I had never flown with Spirit and I had some initial reservations (pun totally intended); however, the airline quickly schooled me in why they’re so popular. You can choose what to pay for and what you don’t want to pay for on your flight. Some people on the plane were grumbling about being nickle and dimed… but I rather enjoyed the a la carte approach.

If you’re familiar with taking discount airlines in Europe this experience is rather similar. However, there are some key differences that make Spirit better. Unlike discount airlines found elsewhere in the world, Spirit’s website is fairly straightforward with its pricing. Yes, you will have to pay for each checked bag (which is fairly standard now) and pay for soda and snacks on board. But you also have to pay to bring a carry-on bag as well. Want to pick your seat? That is an extra charge, too.

The flight takes about two hours to get to Ft. Lauderdale from Atlanta which makes this sunny hotspot an attractive weekend getaway. When you get to the airport round up your luggage, hail a taxi and head straight to the beautiful Grand Resort and Spa (539 North Birch Road, Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33304). This gay owned and operated piece of paradise is one of my favorite hotels in South Florida. It was also named one of The Travel Channel’s “Best All-Inclusive Resorts” for 2014.

With lots of great gay guys from all over the country, a clothing optional Tropical Courtyard, a sparkling swimming pool and bubbling jacuzzi, the Grand Resort and Spa has everything you could ever want at a gay beach resort. What could possibly make this oasis of vacation perfection even better? The Grand Resort and Spa is also incredibly pet friendly! If your dog or cat is under 35 pounds you can bring him or her along for the fun. Not a dog fan? Don’t fret. Pets aren’t allowed in any of the common areas.

The resort also offers five different spa packages for guests. The “Beach Essential” package is absolutely perfect for a pampered beach weekend getaway. Each person receives a body scrub, Swedish massage and an exfoliating pedicure during their stay. Have you ever experienced a deep massage after spending the day at the beach? It’s the perfect way to transition from the beach to a fun night out in Ft. Lauderdale or Miami.

Looking for a fun gay place to grab a bite to eat and enjoy some drinks? Head to Wilton Manors and check out Georgie’s Alibi (2266 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305). Whether you’re going for Sunday brunch and Bloody Marys or a good ole’ cheeseburger after hours in the surf, there is always a great atmosphere and lots of gay guys hanging out.

The food at Georgie’s Alibi is delicious, but nothing in life that tastes that good is calorie free. So grab your dancing shoes and join the always hopping crowd at The Manor (2345 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305). This two-level nightclub isn’t very far from Georgie’s Alibi and regularly features international DJs and well-known singers on their large stage.

Whether you’re dancing the night away in Ft. Lauderdale or sitting poolside at the Grand Resort and Spa, this is a great weekend getaway from Atlanta. It won’t break the bank, and there is so much to do you’ll undoubtedly be planning your next trip on the flight home.

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3 Honeymoon Hotspots

3 Honeymoon Hotspots

By D. David Kinney

With all of the work and stress that comes before a wedding you’ll certainly want to pick a honeymoon destination where the two of you can relax, connect and form memories that will last a lifetime. So picking the perfect honeymoon vacation spot is crucial. Make sure your choice accommodates both of your interests. A dream vacation to Fiji may not be the best option if your partner hates the beach. Here are our top three picks for honeymoons in 2014.

Porto, Portugal – OLD WORLD LUXURY

Portugal is a romantic slice of Europe that is often overlooked when planning jaunts across the Atlantic. Gay marriage has been legal here since 2010 and there some incredible hotels. We suggest staying at The Yeatman (Rua do Choupelo, Vila Nova de Gaia 4400-088) in Porto. This breathtaking hotel is a foodie and wine lovers paradise and one of the most romantic properties in southern Europe. Splurge on The Bacchus Suite and enjoy your private fireplace and standalone brass jacuzzi. Ask the hotel concierge to arrange a trip to the Douro Valley and discover where the region’s famous Port is made. Follow the famous drink back to the Port houses near the hotel and take a tasting tour. This is one tour you can’t miss in Portugal whether you’re already a connoisseur or you’ve never tried it in your life. Ready to explore the local nightlife? The hottest gay club in Porto right now is Zoom (Rua Beco Passos Manuel nº40 4000-385) and it is one raucous party. Expect a packed house with gorgeous guys and large, lavish drag performances.


Hop a flight to the South Pacific and step onto a true island paradise in Bora Bora. This tiny island is part of the French Polynesian collectivity and the flight from Atlanta takes approximately twelve hours. That may sound like a long time in an airplane, but the location and hotel we’ve picked out are worth it. Book a bungalow at Le Méridien Bora Bora and experience the ultimate in honeymoon bliss. Whether its glass floors allowing you to see the sea life below your room or your own traditional Kaïnalu canoe, Le Méridien offers a honeymoon experience like no other beach resort.


Flying into Telluride can feel as adventurous as tackling any double black diamond ski slope. Pilots have to change altitude quickly to go in and out of the airport because of the the towering mountains surrounding the city. Stay in the beautiful and rustic Lumière Telluride, a boutique property appointed with rich leather upholstery and cozy fireplaces. It’s the perfect place to snuggle up with your new partner after a day in the snow. Ask the concierge to plan an adventure on snowmobiles to see the breathtaking Wilson peak. You may know it better as the mountain peak that turns blue when your Coors beer can turns cold. Surrounded by picturesque evergreen trees and wispy, powdery snow a snowmobiling trip can be romantic and a real adrenaline rush.

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Hey Girl Hey!

Hey Girl Hey!

Holler Poodles!

I just want to take a moment to say thank you to all of my friends, family, and fans who came out to support all of the Valentine Day shows at Paris on Ponce. Your support made the event an overwhelming success and I couldn’t be happier with the result. It was so good to work with Alicia Kelly, Raquell Lord, Maya Montana, Mariah Balenciaga, Envy Van Michaels, Angelica D’Paige, Smokin McQueen and Coco Couture. We all had a great time entertaining you! Thanks also to all the people behind the scenes who made the show possible.

Mary Edith Pitts FENUXE Atlanta Gay Drag

And now for my makeup tip/trick sponsored by Atlanta Costume. Every drag queen and glam girl wants and little sparkle in their life and with Ultra Bright Powder, you can have as much or as little as you like. Ultra Bright Powder feels feather light and sparkles like miniature diamonds. Stunning applied dry on bare skin, over makeup, or blended with our Sealers for a durable, high gloss finish.

It is a colorless sparkle powder which can be used on its own or on top of a matte color to give any makeup a highly reflective sparkle. Finer than glitter, but more reflective.  Sticks nicely to the skin, but washes off easier than glitter.

I’ve used this myself and under lights it sparkles like Swarovski crystals. Clint from Atlanta Costume used it when he played Pharaoh in Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat last summer. He used it on top of Aztec Gold Lux Powder and says “I looked like a disco ball.”

Every drag queen or club kid should have this in their makeup kit. 

FENUXE Gay Atlanta Make-Up Tip

Love and lashes!

Mary Edith Pitts

If you have any questions, comments or feedback, please contact me at [email protected] or on twitter @maryedithpitts

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Underwood Endorses Gay Marriage In A Truly Christian Way

Underwood Endorses Gay Marriage In A Truly Christian Way

By Mikkel Hyldebrandt

In light of recent events regarding the anti-gay freedom of religion bill that was vetoed in Arizona, is still pending in Georgia, and is now gaining momentum in Mississippi, we thought we’d pick up on a story that may be a couple of years old, but holds just as great importance today.

In 2012 country singer Carrie Underwood made headlines when she came out in support of gay marriage. Now, there is nothing new about a celebrity endorsing gay marriage, but the twist with Underwood was that she based her reasoning and endorsement on her Christian faith. Initially, she stated:

“As a married person myself, I don’t know what it’s like to be told I can’t marry somebody I love, and want to marry. I can’t imagine how that must feel. I definitely think we should all have the right to love, and love publicly, the people that we want to love.”

Carrie Underwood then went on to say that God wants Christians to love others, and that she and her husband (pro hockey player Mike Fisher) attended a gay-friendly church.

Her statement is worth repeating in a time where it seems many people of faith feel that their freedom of religion is under attack, and where religious groups feel the need to fight back – and the weapon seem to be discrimination and fear. Because isn’t Carrie Underwood way of reasoning the truly Christian way of going about the whole thing? Doesn’t it say repeatedly throughout the Bible that you should ‘love thy neighbor’? Even though the world is changing at a rapid pace, it is possible to fuse religion with more progressive ways of thinking – just take a lesson from Carrie Underwood.

Source: The Blaze

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